The Daughter-in-Law Rules

How to Turn Your Mother-in-Law from Your Biggest Critic into Your #1 Fan!

The Daughter-in-Law Rules provides a revolutionary set of strategies, making copasetic coexistence possible at last!

Members

  • Renee Osman, Co-Host
  • Nurture
  • Tamera Lynn Bell
  • Nicole Scott-Tate
  • Sally Shields
  • Kiki
  • Dore
  • zaytunna
  • Hafsa
  • Asma Akhtar
  • D
  • Barbara Wilkins
  • Dr. Kent Gustavson
  • fadher
  • Alexa
  • wahida

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Hi there! Thank you for writing! The trick is to let them know in advance that you are concerned about this, but what you would like to do. For example, way in advance, tell your MIL (not through your husband) but call her up directly and let her ...
November 18
Kiki updated their profile
November 16
Kiki added a discussion
I am from a different country, and I have absolutely no family here. I moved to the US with my choice, but it has become just very hard especially since I had my daughter. She is 3 now. So, my in laws do not know how it is like to share holidays,...
November 16
Kiki Having an issue with MIL, which is triggering a lot of fights in my marriage...
November 16
Kiki is now a member of The Daughter-in-Law Rules
November 16
D is now a member of The Daughter-in-Law Rules
November 12
Hello Fadher, Sorry to hear your have such a bad time. You can do the DIL rules and be as sweet as pie, but in the end, if they treat you like dirt some distance is called for!!!!! You have your dignity, and its best to protect yourself from bein...
October 15
I sent you the eBook via YouSendIt.com. Please let me know if it arrives to you! :-)
October 12
Thank You.. im 26 :)
October 11
if you email me your email, I'll email you a copy of the DIL Rules and you will see that you are indeed, not alone. In fact, it has been said that 55% of ALL women experience this unpleasantness with their MIL's. HANG in there, my friend!!! p.s. ...
October 11
She sleeps over everytime she comes, and i would LOVE to do that when she says shes coming over, i have even made up things like oh instead of you coming all the way here why don't we meet up somewhere so it won't be so far away for you to meet us...
October 11
Why does she come over so often? My suggestion is to go to the movies with a friend or out to eat the next time you know she is coming. You don't have to sit around and take such abuse. You don't need her approval or her CRAP, is what I really wan...
October 11
no.. although my husband was thinking of moving in together with her, but for now its a no, but she comes over every weekend, and holidays...
October 11
Do you live with her?
October 11
Yes, i have one child. Even on that day i was giving birth she didnt come.. She had vacation for a week and spent the last 4 days with me and on the day she was going home it was the 19th and i was having contractions after contractions having fa...
October 11
Do you have children?
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Kiki

am I unfair? 1 Reply

I am from a different country, and I have absolutely no family here. I moved to the US with my choice, but it has become just very hard especially since I had my daughter. She is 3 now. So, my in ...

Started by Kiki. Last reply by Sally Shields Nov 18.

fadher

MIL BACKBITES! 12 Replies

Hi, I would really appreciate it if someone could give me advice.. I have a MIL that backbites me and my family (family as in my brother) i have told her to stop because all the things shes sayin...

Started by fadher. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Oct 15.

Hafsa

getting things my way... 3 Replies

Hi, This is my first post here. Not totally sure if such an issue was already discussed. I want a microwave at home. I live with my in-laws, and they are very adamant about not getting a microwav...

Started by Hafsa. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Aug 30.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

Why must we be so self depreciating? 1 Reply

Dear Sally. I have been enjoying the quiz that you have started on the Marriage Examiner site... I would like some clarification on why exactly we ought to be as humble as pie and self depreciati...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Sally Shields Jun 14.

zaytunna

Interfering inlaws 7 Replies

Any advice in the following situation? I have a baby girl who is now 4 months old. I moved in next door to my inlaws a few months before I had my daughter, after having spent 3years living some di...

Started by zaytunna. Last reply by zaytunna Jun 10.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

Good excuses for getting out of events 1 Reply

Please share all the excuses you could use with you MIL, when you really dont want to go out shopping with her, or you really dont want to go to the over 60's spirituality group. No lying allowed ...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host May 6.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

Neutral topics to discuss with your MIL 3 Replies

Please share all the non-controversial topics you can use when conversing with your MIL. I'll start 1. Her health, 2. Her diet, 3. The grandkids 4. Your husband

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host May 3.

Nurture

MIL bending the rules 2 Replies

Dear Sally and Renee, I wonder if you've come across the scenario where the MIL acts one way when the DH is around but acts differently when he's not there? One of my best friends and her husband t...

Started by Nurture. Last reply by Nurture May 1.

Sally Shields

Isn't there another way to look at it? 7 Replies

Instead of always thinking the worst, isn't there always another angle to consider? Perhaps your MIL's arthritis is acting up...

Started by Sally Shields. Last reply by Sally Shields Apr 30.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

In-laws disrupt kid's bedtime routines

Scenario: Parents are trying to teach kids to go to sleep by themselves and sleep through the night without waking up.... it works, and they just persist in instilling good sleeping habits in the ...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 26.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

MIL always rides in the front seat 5 Replies

Hi Sally, A woman recently asked a question on a daughter in-law support forum about her predicament. Her MIL always sits in the front passenger seat and the DIL has to sit in the back. This is re...

Tagged: Dilemmas, DIL

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 24.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

Encouraging the MIL to keep up with her interests.... 6 Replies

Hi Sally, I have a question for you, if I may! I heard you talking on the Barack Obama Advice Session ;) and you advised the MIL to make sure she keeps up with her interests even though she has m...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 22.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

The Daughter in Law Rules, by Sally Shields

So how many of us here have read the DIL Rules, and what do we think about it? This book really helped changed my mind set. What I liked the most about it was that it didnt mince words - it accept...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 20.

Sally Shields

I have a New Co-Host! 1 Reply

Dear Members, I am so excited to let you know that I have a new co-host here at the DILRules.ning.com site - none other than the absolutely wonderful, passionate, compassionate, enthusiastic, syne...

Started by Sally Shields. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 19.

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Sally’s Newsletter, Tuesday, November 17th, 2009

* * * Quote of the Week * * *

"We must have perseverance and above all
confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we
are gifted for something and that this thing must
be attained." —Marie Curie
1867-1934,
Physicist

* * * Sally Commentary * * *

This week I had a meeting with the Endless Games
company (i.e. Six Degrees of Separation, The Newlywed
Game) about, The Daughter-in-Law Rules Board
Game. Now, every night all my kids want to do is
play, “The Daughter-in-Law Rules Candyland” as
they call it! LOL! Here are a couple of pictures
of my prototype:


































Overall, it was great meeting, and many
suggestions were made. Back to the drawing
“board” so to speak, but it’s all good! I
learned a lot about the board game industry and
what some of the elements are that make or break a
successful game. Stay tuned!

* * * The Bride’s Book Magazine * * *

Bride’s Book gave The DIL Rules a shout-out in
their current issue of the award winning wedding
magazine, The Bride’s Book as one of their
favorite wedding planning websites/Blogs. The
magazine will be in all Barnes & Nobles, Borders
Bookstores, Waldenbooks and B. Dalton and major
grocery stores throughout North and South Carolina
by Dec 1st. The e-version is on their national
website now. You can view it by clicking this link
http://raleigh.thebridesbook.com/e-zine.php and
turning to page 19.



















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* * * Struggling with Homework? * * *

When your child has homework, you have homework.
If your child is procrastinating, struggling to
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* * * A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage * * *

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"The message of this book is one that should be
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O'Neill has a natural popular voice in this book
that is enticing, as it beckons readers to
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* * * Inspirational thought * * *

"Successful people make decisions quickly and
change them slowly if and when at all."
—Napoleon Hill
, Author of Think and Grow Rich

Have a beautiful week, and don't forget 
to

call
 your mother-in-law, if only to 
ask

how she is 
feeling!!! 








With gratitude,





Speaker, Radio Personality and
International Media Specialist
AS SEEN IN STAR MAGAZINE
AS SEEN ON FOX AND FRIENDS
AS RECOMMENDED BY DR. LAURA
AS HEARD ON MARTHA STEWART RADIO
www.sallyshields.com/productsandservices
co-host, "Blurb!" www.blogtalkradio/blurb

P.S. Are You Ready to Learn all the Insider
Publicity Secrets to Help Make you a Bestselling
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about becoming a successful author.

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credibility, and income.You'll save thousands of
dollars and countless hours, as I will provide
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* * * Quote of the Week * * *

"Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give
thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing
that every step forward is a step toward achieving
something bigger and better than your current
situation." —Brian Tracy
, author and speaker

* * * Sally Commentary * * *

Last weekend, we went to Family Fun day at my
daughter’s school. She has been waiting a full
year to try to win a fish with the ping pong ball
fish toss. You have three tries to get a ping pong
ball into the tiny neck of a vase, about 5 feet
away.

Well, kid after kid misses, and of course, Lara
misses too. But Lorenzo, our three year old wanted
a turn. So, we gave him a ticket, thinking, oh,
how cute. He’ll have fun and feel like he’s
part of things. So, they hand him his first ball.
BOOP! Right in. OH NO!!! (I immediately am having
thoughts of this fish floating on the top of a
bowl). Anyhoo, they hand him the second ping pong
ball. BOOP! Right in. This is getting creepy!
Fortunately he missed the 3rd one. But, later on
when I was driving Lara to a birthday party, my
husband who stayed at the fair with our son,
calls to tell me that Lorenzo has just won his 3rd
and 4th fish. He named the first one “Hat.”

Update: This morning, there was only 1 fish on
our counter. Many tears have been shed. But it
was a good opportunity to talk about "The Other Side"
and how all living things make their transition.

* * * Awesome Opportunity! * * *

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* * * Law of Attraction * * *

Looking back on your recent years, can you
pinpoint the exact moment that that spiritual
principles and universal ideals like the Law of
Attraction really hit home for you? What was it
like when you finally came to that realization of
the freedom you can have through manifestation and
creating your own experience?

Now, think back even further. What did it take to
bring you to that point? What did you have to
overcome in regards to your upbringing – the
limitations you grew up with and experienced even
through adulthood? What were the fears and beliefs
that you had to get past? Now, imagine that instead
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life to overcome, that you actually knew those very
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I love to imagine such things, which is why I am
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Best of all, as a parent and former corporate
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* * * The Wedding Salon Event! * * *

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* * * Inspirational thought * * *

"Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot
see the shadows."
—Helen Keller
1880-1968, Author and Lecturer

Have a beautiful week, and don't forget 
to

call
 your mother-in-law, if only to 
ask

how she is 
feeling!!! 







With gratitude,





Speaker, Radio Personality and
International Media Specialist
AS SEEN IN STAR MAGAZINE
AS SEEN ON FOX AND FRIENDS
AS RECOMMENDED BY DR. LAURA
AS HEARD ON MARTHA STEWART RADIO
www.sallyshields.com/productsandservices
co-host, "Blurb!" www.blogtalkradio/blurb

P.S. Are You Ready to Learn all the Insider
Publicity Secrets to Help Make you a Bestselling
Author? I will reveal everything I've learned
about becoming a successful author.

No matter how much or how little you've done so
far in your career as an author, I can help you
get to a much higher level of publicity,
credibility, and income.You'll save thousands of
dollars and countless hours, as I will provide
you with the information you need to get lots of
exposure for your books. I'll help you learn a
lot about selling more books and getting lots of
coverage for it—for free!

http://www.sallyshields.com/psr

* * * Quote of the Week * * *



Every achiever that I have ever met
says, "My life turned around when I began to
believe in me." —Dr. Robert Schuller,
Minister
and Author


Last night, I participated in the Fontanal bridal event
(see picture attached) displaying The
Daughter-in-Law Rules, trying to save hapless
young brides years of needless contention, and
giving away copies like cookies in a bakeshop.
Then, I overheard the woman and her daughter at
the booth next to mine, arguing about the price of
a teeny tiny hair comb they were selling. One
was saying it was $4.50 and the other was sure it
was priced at $5.50. Granted it was sparkly but I
couldn't for the life of me figure out why they
were bickering over a dollar! Then, it dawned on
me... they price of the comb was in the ballpark
of... $500. I thought to myself, I am really and
truly in the wrong business...














Therefore, I'd like to tell you about an awesome
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along an amazing opportunity from his friend Vic
Johnson, who will pay you $5 for every copy of
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* * * Inspirational thought * * *

Pretend that every single person you meet has a
sign around his or her neck that says, "Make me
feel important." Not only will you succeed in
sales, you will succeed in life. —Mary Kay
Ash
, Founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics


Have a beautiful week, and don't forget 
to

call
 your mother-in-law, if only to 
ask

how she is 
feeling!!! 






With gratitude,





Speaker, Radio Personality and
International Media Specialist
AS SEEN IN STAR MAGAZINE
AS SEEN ON FOX AND FRIENDS
AS RECOMMENDED BY DR. LAURA
AS HEARD ON MARTHA STEWART RADIO
www.sallyshields.com/productsandservices
co-host, "Blurb!" www.blogtalkradio/blurb

All Living Things Make Their Transition

Sally’s Newsletter, Tuesday, October 27th

* * * Quote of the Week * * *

"Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give
thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing
that every step forward is a step toward achieving
something bigger and better than your current
situation." —Brian Tracy
, author and speaker

* * * Sally Commentary * * *

This weekend, we went to Family Fun day at my
daughter’s school. She has been waiting a full
year to try to win a fish with the ping pong ball
fish toss. You have three tries to get a ping pong
ball into the tiny neck of a vase, about 5 feet
away.

Well, kid after kid misses, and of course, Lara
misses too. But Lorenzo, our three year old wanted
a turn. So, we gave him a ticket, thinking, oh,
how cute. He’ll have fun and feel like he’s
part of things. So, they hand him his first ball.
BOOP! Right in. OH NO!!! (I immediately am having
thoughts of this fish floating on the top of a
bowl). Anyhoo, they hand him the second ping pong
ball. BOOP! Right in. This is getting creepy!
Fortunately he missed the 3rd one. But, later on
when I was driving Lara to a birthday party, my
husband who stayed at the fair with ,
calls to tell me that Lorenzo has just won his 3rd
and 4th fish. He named the first one “Hat.”

Update: This morning, there were only 2 fish on
our counter. (2 of them didn’t make it through
the night). Many tears were shed. But it was a
good opportunity to talk about "The Other Side"
and how all living things make their transition.

* * * Law of Attraction * * *

Looking back on your recent years, can you
pinpoint the exact moment that that spiritual
principles and universal ideals like the Law of
Attraction really hit home for you? What was it
like when you finally came to that realization of
the freedom you can have through manifestation and
creating your own experience?

Now, think back even further. What did it take to
bring you to that point? What did you have to
overcome in regards to your upbringing – the
limitations you grew up with and experienced even
through adulthood? What were the fears and beliefs
that you had to get past? Now, imagine that instead
of having years (perhaps even generations!) of your
life to overcome, that you actually knew those very
principles from the time you were a young child.
What an amazing gift that would be!
I love to imagine such things, which is why I am
so thrilled to share with you today about my
friend and colleague, Cyndi Cerny, founder of the
Blissful Transformation of the Chaotic Family
program. Cyndi spent over 20 years of her journey
on the very possibility of gifting your child
(whether they are very young or all grown up) with
the ability to experience life in this way.

Best of all, as a parent and former corporate
executive, she knows exactly how hectic a
parent’s life can become, so she designed her
tools specifically to meet the demanding needs of
busy mothers and fathers. On Thursday, October
29th at 9:00PM EST, Cyndi is offering a
complimentary tele-training called, The Magnetism
of the Awakening Parent.

Do you want to see a dramatic shift happen within
your family? Do you want to give your children the
chance to grow up free of lack-based thinking and
un-serving beliefs? Register here today for Cyndi’s
complimentary tele-training: The Magnetism of the
Awakening Parent:

http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?Clk=3334425

* * * The Wedding Salon Event! * * *

Use the code DILNY9P at www.WeddingSalon.com to
get $15 promotional tickets!

The Wedding Salon
November 2, 2009
4pm–9pm
The Roosevelt Hotel
45 East 45th Street, NYC

The Wedding Salon features the must-have products
and services for brides-to-be. At this one day
event, you will meet face-to-face with the hottest
vendors including Sylvia Weinstock, David Tutera
by Faviana, CECI New York and Disney Fairy Tale
Weddings!

See spectacular table decor, dresses, honeymoon
destinations, invitations, musicians,
photographers, florists and more! Learn the latest
tips and trends for your wedding and find your
missing vendors. There will be complimentary
beauty services for brides from Bobbi Brown The
Studio as well as a couture fashion show!
Cocktails, Cake Tastings and Fabulous Gift Bags!
Use code DILNY9P at www.WeddingSalon.com to get
$15 promotional tickets ($50 Value, Admits 2).

For more information, call 212.631.7777 or email
Info@WeddingSalon.com

* * * Inspirational thought * * *

"Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot
see the shadows."
—Helen Keller
1880-1968, Author and Lecturer

Have a beautiful week, and don't forget 
to

call
 your mother-in-law, if only to 
ask

how she is 
feeling!!! 



Sally Appears on the Rachel Ray Show!

Sally’s Newsletter, Tuesday, October 20th, 2009

* * * Quote of the Week * * *

"You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never
know how soon it will be too late."
—Ralph Waldo Emerson, 1803-1882, Essayist,
Philosopher and Poet

* * * Sally Commentary * * *

So, I did it—the Rachel Ray show! As you
know, I taped a segment on cellulite, my
master plan being to make friends with the
producers and pitch The DIL Rules for their next
bridal show. Update: it was most definitely
embarrassing!!! However, I did manage to make
friends with the camera guy, and made sure that he
got a good shot of me reading my very own book
while I relaxed with the Totally You Spa-at-Home
Seaweed Body Wrap Kit at the Helmsley Hotel in
Midtown Manhattan!

Okay pals, here I am on Rachel Ray, talkin' about
the Totally You Spa-at-Home Seaweed Body Wrap Kit!
Human Lab #2 http://tinyurl.com/yjls35b

And here’s a pic of me with the
make-up gal, Robin Watson:















And now,onwards!

This past couple of weeks I did two teleseminars
revealing Publicity Secrets and How I Became an
Amazon.com bestseller. For interested parties, you
can check out the replay lines here:

http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=9506163
http://instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=9327054

Here's a super-nice comment from my host of the
evening, Alicia Dunams:

“Wowzer—last night's call with Sally Shields
(Publicity Secrets Revealed!) blew my socks off!!
Sally revealed the 10 Publicity Secrets that made
her a best-selling author and sought-after TV
expert, and she goes into DETAIL on how you can
mimic her success. The content on this call is
extremely valuable—I gotta admit Sally taught me
a few things I didn't even know. Seriously, this
seminar was HISTORIC in terms of getting valuable
information for no cost. I felt guilty not paying
to hear it! I got tons of feedback from listeners
who were significantly jazzed about the
information they heard, and are ready to take
Sally up on her generous offer. And by generous...
I mean generous!” —Alicia Dunams,
founder, See You On The Call

I will be extending all the special extras
mentioned on the calls to everyone on this list,
of course! Also coming up is a super-cool Bridal
event on October 27th. I’d love to see you there!














And now, some messages from my talented
and lovely collegues and friends!

* * * Work Less, Enjoy Life More! * * *

I’ve been wondering lately how to remain
excited about being an entrepreneur and still be
able to enjoy the other parts of my life. You
know, make money but don’t let it rule my life
and lead to burnout.

Then I came across this new book by Allan Katz
called Addictive Entrepreneurship. Suddenly it all
became clear. I could rely on the character
traits I already have—not have to change my
personality—and still succeed in business and
in life.

I learned how to balance my day so I could work
less and enjoy life more.

I want you to incorporate the 13 success
principles in this book so I’m helping Allan
celebrate the official launch of his book,
Addictive Entrepreneurship.

Today only, you can receive a staggering amount
of freebies within minutes – over $393 in FREE
gifts—when you do just ONE thing today!

Today, October 20th, we have a personal goal to
help Allan reach the #1 position on Amazon.com and
we really need your help. And for helping,
we’re going to reward you in a big, BIG way!

This offer requires a small investment of just
$19.95. You’ll get your very own copy of
Addictive Entrepreneurship.... and over $393 worth
of free gifts!!!

Today, Allan is being joined by a unique blend of
work / life issue experts, coaches, consultants
and authors to bring you an exceptional value to
improve the quality of your work and life.

Go here now to find out more about this promotion
that makes buying a copy of Addictive
Entrepreneurship really worthwhile TODAY ONLY,
Tuesday, October 20th.

End the exasperating cycle of working so hard for
so little. Realize you are not alone in feeling out of
balance and there is a lot you can do about it.
Discover how to bestow a calm sense of serenity
back into your life.

Whether you’re struggling as an entrepreneur or
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life, work less and earn more money today.

This is a one time offer... never to be repeated
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So grab this unique bundle of gifts and order
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time will you get so much value around balancing
your life than right now—when you take
advantage of this unique offer—valid TODAY
ONLY!

http://AddictiveEntrepreneurship.com/specialoffer

P.S. Please share this offer with your friends
and family. It’s easy... just send them this
link by email and let them know about the slew of
gifts we’ve made available for them today.

* * * An Amazing Gift of Reassurance * * *

Are you grieving the death of a loved one? Do you
fear death? Is a loved one experiencing Dementia
or Alzheimer’s? Kathryn Speakes-Large
illuminates the pathway to dissolving your fear of
death and validating that your loved ones are
still with you after death of the physical body in
Waiting in the Other Room. Kathryn and her dad,
Big Jim, share their continued communication after
his death in 2005 with love and humor. Also
included are the methods she used to communicate
with Big Jim after his death and with her
grandfather while he experienced Dementia. When
you purchase Waiting in the Other Room be sure to
register to be included in a drawing for bonus
prizes and receive bonus gifts from our sponsors!
For all the detail, please visit the link below TODAY!

http://www.soulkisses.com/WaitingInTheOtherRoom/promo.htm

* * * A Spiritual Humanitarian Cause * * *

My friend and colleague Dr. Barbara Rose has
founded the Spiritual Humanitarian Cause with an
unprecedented FIVE brand new book releases that
are at the forefront of Spiritual and Humanitarian
evolution.

I am supporting her efforts because of the
integrity of her work, and especially because she
is donating a portion of her personal book
royalties to the United Nations Friends of the
World Food Program - each book you purchase will
create donations to save the lives of children who
are dying from starvation. This is a deeply
important cause!

In addition this Cause needs your support to end
religious persecution globally.

You must see the Spiritual Humanitarian Cause of
pivotal books, the cargo of valuable gifts, and
the causes that saves people from religious
persecution and the lives of starving children
that I am supporting. Go NOW to:

http://BornToInspire.com

* * * MasterPeace Coaching * * *

Busy Bees Zizzzzzle Out Fast

Internally do you say things like…

• I don’t have any time for myself
• I’m soooo behind with my emails, calls,
accounting, work or projects
• I’m so stressed out
• My business isn’t doing as well as it could be
because I can’t get to what’s most important
• When I get caught up, then I’ll relax
• How can I multi-task this?
• I’m overwhelmed
• I need more balance, space or just give me a break

You’re not crazy. However, you do need a break
and you can’t wait until things mellow out.
It’s your mind that is creating the squeeze, not
your schedule or organizational skills or even the
culture at your company.

Circumstances, people and events don’t cause
suffering; it’s your perception of them. Life
is not racing by, it’s your mind.

I bet a retreat from your mind is sounding good
about now, eh?

Why should you drop from your head down into your
heart? Because you will have access to your
creativity there. You will be intentional versus
reactional. You will feel grounded and act like
it. All of the above produces a happy individual
who ends up getting MORE done in less time, which
leads to more abundance.

You will be in one place at a time, rather than
being with family and thinking about work or vice
versa.

Ready for a 1-hour NO COST call to give you an
experience of that? Join Wendy Yellen and Jeanna
Gabellini TODAY, Tuesday, the 20th at 12pm PT/3pm
ET. It will be recorded, so if you missed it,
register to receive the replay information.

Register for the NO COST CALL and get more
details on our 5-month teleclass at:

http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=1076219

* * * Inspirational thought * * *

"No one is in control of your happiness but you;
therefore, you have the power to change anything
about yourself or your life that you want to change."

—Barbara DeAngelis
Author

Have a beautiful week, and don't forget 
to

call
 your mother-in-law, if only to 
ask

how she is 
feeling!!! 







With gratitude,







Speaker, Radio Personality and
International Media Specialist
AS SEEN IN STAR MAGAZINE
AS SEEN ON FOX AND FRIENDS
AS RECOMMENDED BY DR. LAURA
AS HEARD ON MARTHA STEWART RADIO
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