The Daughter-in-Law Rules

How to Turn Your Mother-in-Law from Your Biggest Critic into Your #1 Fan!

The Daughter-in-Law Rules provides a revolutionary set of strategies, making copasetic coexistence possible at last!

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  • Nurture
  • Tamera Lynn Bell
  • Nicole Scott-Tate
  • Sally Shields
  • Kiki
  • Dore
  • zaytunna
  • Hafsa
  • Asma Akhtar
  • D
  • Barbara Wilkins
  • Dr. Kent Gustavson
  • fadher
  • Renee Osman, Co-Host
  • Alexa
  • wahida

Latest Activity

Hi there! Thank you for writing! The trick is to let them know in advance that you are concerned about this, but what you would like to do. For example, way in advance, tell your MIL (not through your husband) but call her up directly and let her ...
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Kiki updated their profile
November 16
Kiki added a discussion
I am from a different country, and I have absolutely no family here. I moved to the US with my choice, but it has become just very hard especially since I had my daughter. She is 3 now. So, my in laws do not know how it is like to share holidays,...
November 16
Kiki Having an issue with MIL, which is triggering a lot of fights in my marriage...
November 16
Kiki is now a member of The Daughter-in-Law Rules
November 16
D is now a member of The Daughter-in-Law Rules
November 12
Hello Fadher, Sorry to hear your have such a bad time. You can do the DIL rules and be as sweet as pie, but in the end, if they treat you like dirt some distance is called for!!!!! You have your dignity, and its best to protect yourself from bein...
October 15
I sent you the eBook via YouSendIt.com. Please let me know if it arrives to you! :-)
October 12
Thank You.. im 26 :)
October 11
if you email me your email, I'll email you a copy of the DIL Rules and you will see that you are indeed, not alone. In fact, it has been said that 55% of ALL women experience this unpleasantness with their MIL's. HANG in there, my friend!!! p.s. ...
October 11
She sleeps over everytime she comes, and i would LOVE to do that when she says shes coming over, i have even made up things like oh instead of you coming all the way here why don't we meet up somewhere so it won't be so far away for you to meet us...
October 11
Why does she come over so often? My suggestion is to go to the movies with a friend or out to eat the next time you know she is coming. You don't have to sit around and take such abuse. You don't need her approval or her CRAP, is what I really wan...
October 11
no.. although my husband was thinking of moving in together with her, but for now its a no, but she comes over every weekend, and holidays...
October 11
Do you live with her?
October 11
Yes, i have one child. Even on that day i was giving birth she didnt come.. She had vacation for a week and spent the last 4 days with me and on the day she was going home it was the 19th and i was having contractions after contractions having fa...
October 11
Do you have children?
October 11
 

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Kiki

am I unfair? 1 Reply

I am from a different country, and I have absolutely no family here. I moved to the US with my choice, but it has become just very hard especially since I had my daughter. She is 3 now. So, my in ...

Started by Kiki. Last reply by Sally Shields Nov 18.

fadher

MIL BACKBITES! 12 Replies

Hi, I would really appreciate it if someone could give me advice.. I have a MIL that backbites me and my family (family as in my brother) i have told her to stop because all the things shes sayin...

Started by fadher. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Oct 15.

Hafsa

getting things my way... 3 Replies

Hi, This is my first post here. Not totally sure if such an issue was already discussed. I want a microwave at home. I live with my in-laws, and they are very adamant about not getting a microwav...

Started by Hafsa. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Aug 30.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

Why must we be so self depreciating? 1 Reply

Dear Sally. I have been enjoying the quiz that you have started on the Marriage Examiner site... I would like some clarification on why exactly we ought to be as humble as pie and self depreciati...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Sally Shields Jun 14.

zaytunna

Interfering inlaws 7 Replies

Any advice in the following situation? I have a baby girl who is now 4 months old. I moved in next door to my inlaws a few months before I had my daughter, after having spent 3years living some di...

Started by zaytunna. Last reply by zaytunna Jun 10.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

Good excuses for getting out of events 1 Reply

Please share all the excuses you could use with you MIL, when you really dont want to go out shopping with her, or you really dont want to go to the over 60's spirituality group. No lying allowed ...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host May 6.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

Neutral topics to discuss with your MIL 3 Replies

Please share all the non-controversial topics you can use when conversing with your MIL. I'll start 1. Her health, 2. Her diet, 3. The grandkids 4. Your husband

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host May 3.

Nurture

MIL bending the rules 2 Replies

Dear Sally and Renee, I wonder if you've come across the scenario where the MIL acts one way when the DH is around but acts differently when he's not there? One of my best friends and her husband t...

Started by Nurture. Last reply by Nurture May 1.

Sally Shields

Isn't there another way to look at it? 7 Replies

Instead of always thinking the worst, isn't there always another angle to consider? Perhaps your MIL's arthritis is acting up...

Started by Sally Shields. Last reply by Sally Shields Apr 30.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

In-laws disrupt kid's bedtime routines

Scenario: Parents are trying to teach kids to go to sleep by themselves and sleep through the night without waking up.... it works, and they just persist in instilling good sleeping habits in the ...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 26.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

MIL always rides in the front seat 5 Replies

Hi Sally, A woman recently asked a question on a daughter in-law support forum about her predicament. Her MIL always sits in the front passenger seat and the DIL has to sit in the back. This is re...

Tagged: Dilemmas, DIL

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 24.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

Encouraging the MIL to keep up with her interests.... 6 Replies

Hi Sally, I have a question for you, if I may! I heard you talking on the Barack Obama Advice Session ;) and you advised the MIL to make sure she keeps up with her interests even though she has m...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 22.

Renee Osman, Co-Host

The Daughter in Law Rules, by Sally Shields

So how many of us here have read the DIL Rules, and what do we think about it? This book really helped changed my mind set. What I liked the most about it was that it didnt mince words - it accept...

Started by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 20.

Sally Shields

I have a New Co-Host! 1 Reply

Dear Members, I am so excited to let you know that I have a new co-host here at the DILRules.ning.com site - none other than the absolutely wonderful, passionate, compassionate, enthusiastic, syne...

Started by Sally Shields. Last reply by Renee Osman, Co-Host Apr 19.

Blog Posts

Barbara Wilkins

Speech Writing: How To Write A Good One?

Speech writing is in lots of ways similar writing a paper, apart from that there is no penalty for spelling and punctuation mistakes. You should not try to write words in your speech that you are not relaxed pronouncing or don't know the meaning of because it can lead to a less fluently delivered speech.

To be able to write a high-quality speech is a lot like making a good cake. Having the right elements is key for it's success. Every… Continue

Posted by Barbara Wilkins on October 27, 2009 at 2:50am

Sally Shields

The DIL Rules Mnemonics!

My new friend and inspirational youth leader, Derrick Hayes, came up with some absolutely brilliant and creative mnemonics for the DIL Rules and I wanted to share them with you.

The DIL Rules

Idea #1: DIL or no DIL: Rules daughters can learn from their mothers

Idea #2: DIL with him: Rules given to DIL to help her with the son

Idea#3: DIL of a lifetime: Rules to leave an inheritance for the DIL’s, DIL

Idea# 4: What’s the DIL with your Attitude: Rules to help her stay on the right track

Idea… Continue

Posted by Sally Shields on June 5, 2009 at 10:12am

Sally Shields

What Economic Crisis?

Do What You Love

When you are doing something that takes you into what Deepak Chopra calls “Timeless Awareness,” you will get supercharged and not think about time or money. It will bring you internal satisfaction that transcends the fleeting negative feelings that come with thinking about money or the lack-thereof.

Partner with a Non-Profit

Giving back has actually led to quantum leap in my success, because when you partner with a charitable cause, you now have an entire database and media p… Continue

Posted by Sally Shields on May 7, 2009 at 11:39pm

Sally Shields

Are You a Mom and Trying to Do It All?

As a mom, we try to do it all. For example, I teach, do workshops, co-host a weekly radio show, give online tele-classes, write books, blog, tweet, do a weekly newsletter, prepare corporate sponsorships, answer HARO ads, etc. I also am a jazz pianist and mother of two small children.

Here are some tips as to how to do it all:

Do not Procrastinate!

When you have five minutes to do something on your to do list, do it! I used to let things pile up but now I realize that five minutes is golden an… Continue

Posted by Sally Shields on May 7, 2009 at 11:38pm

Sally Shields

Do What Works with Your Mother-in-Law

There are some deceptively simple ways to help daughters-in-law to gain the trust and build the foundation of friendship with a very deliberate, proactive set of strategies to use with one’s husband’s mother. It is based on one of the seven spiritual laws of success, which is—the quickest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. The rules work wonders so that any daughter-in-law can transform the relationship with her mother-in-law from one fraught with tension and competit… Continue

Posted by Sally Shields on May 7, 2009 at 11:37pm

 
 

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